*sighingly smh* So long story short, she called herself getting back at her ex ES and ended up getting got. I don’t know why she doesn’t just pack it up and go home. None of her jobs are working out for her and she has been in that city coming up on a year now. I don’t believe she has either told her family that they have broken up or she hasn’t told them he played her. Either way, I don’t believe she is being honest with the folk at home. She doesn’t want to hear ‘I told you so’. She needs to put on her big girl drawers, tell everyone to say it one time to get it out of their system, and take her butt home.
I get the feeling that this isn’t the first time that this has happened to her which is the real reason she is reluctant to fess up and go home. Last night, she reached out to the group for some truth. Chile, the last time we tried to give her truth she got mad and laid folk out saying we didn’t know her. That is true. If we were her real friends we’d know the truth of her story because it doesn’t add up.
See as a friend, I know that MB3 exaggerates her stories a bit. Not much but a bit so I always know where to dial it back when she calls. I know when she’s mad, sad, depressed, happy, jealous, etc by the tone of her emails and her voice.
See as a friend, I know that TPL is just that, a pathological liar. He cannot help himself. But his azz has issues that have been verified so I know to cut him some slack about some things and when to pull back and let his azz know I’m pissed and he owes me an apology. And because I’m one of the few friends who put up with the madness and *smh* fun that is TPL I get one.
See as a friend, I know that my BFL takes some finessing when it comes to talking about her problems. It takes time for her to work out her emotions. I know when she just needs me to listen and when she needs advice. I know when she has called to laugh and when she just needs to type out a bytch session. She has a husband and doesn’t want him to know what she’s bytching about until she’s ready to say it calmly and rationally. When it is just simple and petty stuff she leaves the bytch mode in the emails with me. When it is something serious I hear about what happened afterwards.
See as a friend, I know that MCB has a lot on her plate and that sometimes she just needs to unload. She needs love and encouragement and help to see the positive side when all she can see are the negatives. I’ve truly had to shock her into the reality of how good her life truly is. She is a lot better than when we first met. Now she is just happily exhausted most days and frustrated with her career on others. Those frustrated days I remind her that she only has one more child to get out of the nest and then she is free to go and do as she pleases. Two more years and she’s free. She’s thinking of coming back to Maryland. *Happy Spice*
I could go on but I’m already over the thousand word recommended limit for blog posts. *snickers* So I’ll just say this, I don’t understand why she still has pics of the ex up. I’m betting neither do her “friends”.
I’ll tell you what I believe. I believe she hasn’t told the folk at home that they are over. I believe she slept with him in hopes that she was winning him back. I believe she needs to go on home and leave this mess behind. Or move to another state. Something. Because nothing is panning out for her down there except more hurt.
We have a no gossip rule in the group so I gotta gossip somewhere about this. *snickers*
She asks why does it keep happening to her. The answer is simple but none of them want to know it. Especially not from me. Someone who is just sitting back observing it all. I know exactly what is wrong with this generation because quiet as it is kept even the men are dissatisfied with the status quo.
But this ain’t my journey. It is hers and everyone that is going through it. I can listen when they are venting but until they stop and pay attention to what they are doing wrong…repeatedly…like lemmings going over a cliff, there ain’t shyt I can say. They don’t believe anything that comes out of my mouth or fingertips. Even though I am just as content in my universe. And in a minute, I’m a have a man and a healthy relationship and they are truly going to be fugged in the head about it because there is no way in the world that I should have either. At least according to all the unhappy souls out there telling the world how miserable I’m supposed to be. *eyerolls*
TG shut the group down last night. *smh* I know those insomniacs were up. It was Friday and people had already started posting music and getting their drinks out. *smh* But when they were thinking of booting her a few weeks ago a lot of the core group said they’d leave if she was booted. They think they are her friends. *side eyeing the whole notion*
A friend would be able to pick up the phone and call someone in her family and tell them what is really going on with her. They say her home life isn’t ideal. Is anyone’s? If she ain’t running from mental, physical, emotional, or sexual abuse then she needs to take herself home to people who love her and want to help her. If she is running from any of the above then the last thing she needs to be doing is dating. The first thing she needs to do is get herself to a qualified mental health specialist. I already told them that I don’t think we are qualified to give the kind of help she needs. They don’t understand what I mean and I don’t know how else to tell them.
We vent and move on in our group quite a bit. That’s life. There’s always going to be something to vetch about. Chances are there is someone in there who can commiserate. TG comes in with Tyler Perry script worthy drama. Seriously. I haven’t gone into the half, just the highlights out of respect for our privacy rules.
Funny, I had reservations about admitting her to the group but all her “friends” said she’d be a good fit. So I kept my mouth shut. Damn my instincts are good even over the internet.
I’m about done with fb. I say that because the only thing holding me to it was my women’s group and I see TG bringing an end to it. Either she’s gonna get booted or get mad and leave on her own and her “friends” will leave with her. It takes a long time for people to realize what friends are. My momma told me that when I was a teen throwing that word around. It made me start to reevaluate my relationships.
Then maybe the group’s leader will find good replacements for those that leave. *shrug* Shame, this is a good group and we offer each other a lot in so many ways. We just can’t help TG. She needs a professional.
*tips juice glass at monitor and goes to make breakfast*
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