I love Nip / Tuck and why Kizzy got a bum personal life.

So I got the complete series of Nip/Tuck for Christmas.  I remembered it being a great show.  I watched the first three seasons and half of the fourth season before saying see ya to cable.  Well I’ve finally watched it from beginning to end and wow is all I can say.  It was even better watching it now.

I was talking to my BFL about the show and how I missed so much symbolism when I first watched it over 10 years ago.  Show ran from 2003-2010.  Now that I have some distance and some more age and experience on me, it really blows me away how much story telling and symbolism was in that show.

My BFL and I were dissecting just a couple episodes.  I’ve already done a run through but I started watching it again because my BFL was saying she didn’t believe that Christian even liked women.  And I thought, but didn’t say, much like most Christian religions.  *chuckle* I wasn’t sure I agreed with her or not.  Besides Sean he had no male friends.  If he had no use for a person, male or female, then they were soon dismissed from his life.  And he was pretty unapologetic about it.  Even tied up with an angry ex-girlfriend aiming a knife at his penis he still told the truth.

Kimber: Why couldn’t you just love me?

Christian: I never loved anyone.

That takes guts.  She’d already cut him in the side.  You know she ain’t playing but you’re still telling the truth.  Dang bro’.  *chuckles*

But I find it interesting that they give the character most like the devil the name Christian.  Remember the devil is reported to be a fallen angel and the most beautiful of them all.  Consequently, the most beautiful people on the show have some of the most awful secrets or do the most awful things.  And Christian and his 10-inch penis thought of himself as as the most beautiful of them all.

In the show’s run they handled homosexuality, bestiality, transgenders, fluid sexuality, Christianity, Scientology, of course our obsession with physical perfection, vanity when your eyes is lying azz lying to you, parenting, love, hate, sex, bigotry, fatherhood, motherhood, gender inequality, child abuse and so much more.

There is an episode where they realize, after the fact, that they have changed the appearance of a pedophile priest.  Sean is all for taking their time and talking it out with the Archdiocese.  He’s leaving voicemails and hoping they call him back.  He’s supposed to be the good guy in this.

Meanwhile, Christian goes down to the church and confronts the priest.  Then do you know what that good Christian priest says to him: He knows it is wrong but he can’t help himself and he can’t go to jail either.  Christian, one of a handful of times, shows what being a Christian is supposed to be about and tells him either he turns himself into the police or he’ll do it himself.

You’re supposed to take up for the innocent children already here.  Period.

There were other moments like that in the show.  I’m watching it yet again to pick up stuff I missed.  I had a couple choking moments of course.  They showcased the double standards between men and women.  Sean cheats on his wife and his mistress dies.  He confesses to his wife and then buries his head in her lap looking for sympathy after his mistress dies from cancer.

*blink blink* N*gger WHAT?????

She puts him out for a couple weeks but goes to him and tells him to come home.

Okay.  He finds out that she had an affair with Christian before they were married and that their oldest is in fact Christian’s son.  He tries to kill her before kicking her out of the house and refuses to forgive her for months.  When the divorce is final and she starts a successful business THEN he wants her azz back.  At which point she’s like naw, I’m good but thanks.  He forgives Christian long before forgiving his ex-wife.

The show even took digs at people who believe their kids are going to tell them everything because they are such good buddies.  When Julia finds out their oldest is having sex she can’t believe he didn’t tell her before engaging in sex.  I couldn’t stop laughing.  I can’t believe how people fool themselves into believing that they and their kids are a) like that and b) need to be like that.

The show also took on what happens when you make your child your peer instead of your child.

If it missed anything to touch on I don’t know what it was.  By the finale they had come full circle.  The only difference is that I wanted to put my foot in Matt’s azz.  Otherwise, I was happy where they left everyone.  Darn good show.  Has to be to get me to blog about it.

But it also got me looking at the caucasian woman they were passing around.  I started thinking about Kizzy and the difference between Kizzy and Kimber.  Though Kimber got passed around and ended up doing porn, meth, prostitution, she still got six marriage proposals, four of those rings were worth over $100k, one ring was between $10k - $20k and she got married twice.  But people think you’re overreaching when you say that Kizzy’s romantic life should have been totally different.  Okay.  Y’all keep thinking that.

OH!  I did want to remark on something else that of course happened on fb.  On a writer friend of mine’s wall.  I started to discuss it in my writer group but I didn’t want it to seem like I’m gossiping about her because I’m not.  I’m just concerned.

Here’s the scenario.  Said writer friend is pregnant.  She’s had a miscarriage and then difficulty getting pregnant again.  So now that she is pregnant again she has been gushing.  It is to be expected.  I read what I want and like and skim when I ain’t got time.  Well yesterday she put up a rant about her pregnancy saying that if people didn’t like her pregnancy posts then they could unfollow / unfriend as they pleased.  This was her joy and she was going to revel in it.

I read it and was a bit shocked.  Only a bit because she basically says what she feels all the time.  So I wasn’t surprised at the rant.  I was surprised she told people on her author’s page they could leave if they didn’t like her pregnancy posts.

So, I sat and ruminated for a minute on whether I should say something.  I said a prayer on it and then reached out to her.  I just asked did she think that was wise considering that a lot of the people on her page are her readers.  People planning baby shower participation and ish.  She’d need those folks to buy her books when they come out this year.

She said that she wrote under other names and that she had other ventures that supported her so she felt fine if people didn’t want to support her anymore.  She said she was tired of people telling her she couldn’t do what she wanted to do and she was going to do things her way.

So I was like, okay.  Cool!  As long as you are good financially then I’ll go back to minding my business.  Then I got to thinking, you know the no nonsense approach works for Dr. Phil.  Let me sit here and see how this works out for her.  I always watch how other writers run their pages to see what seems to work for them especially with writers in my same genre.

So today I signed onto fb and fooled around on other people’s pages and my own before going to check her page to see what folks had said to her rant.  People seemed supportive.  I saw that she posted a follow up video detailing what made her go off.  Basically some folks who have access to her told her things from it is too early for her to be talking about her pregnancy to she needs to be sensitive to people who are still trying to get pregnant, etc.

And people seemed to understand and rally around her.  So I kind of breathed a sigh of relief.  However, as I looked around things do seem to be a bit quieter on her wall.  I’m going to keep an eye on it as I said, I look at how other writers seem to connect with their readers as info on how I want to move forward with my readers.  I know one romance writer who has bonded with readers over her cat.  Seriously she gets close to 100 likes and lots of conversation on her cat’s antics every time she posts.  She’s got a great rapport with an awful lot of her readers.  Great rapport with your readers leads to repeat readers and recommendations.

This writer friend of mine had/has that.  Like I said, I’m going to keep an eye on it and see how it goes.

Other than that, things are still great.

Peace, love, and blessings.

I gotta say it somewhere...

Happy New Year!

I know, long time no write.  I’ve been happily busy.  Which is a very good thing.

I only stopped by here because I have to say this somewhere before I bust.  I can’t say this to the person who started the fb post because there would be a war on her wall and it is not that serious.  I can’t say it in my women’s group because the most vocal ones love that tv show that I call Kizzy Does DC (KDDC).  I refuse to mention the show’s real name but it has Kerry W. in the lead role.  They will defend that show to the last drop of their blood.  They’ve already done so and continue to do so just disgusted that they have to keep defending the show.  They defend that show like they are defending themselves.

Look, I like some of Nicki Minaj’s songs and I don’t defend her when people attack her.  I pay for her music to entertain me.  She isn’t giving me a thin coin to defend her and I don’t.  So I figure they must see themselves in Kizzy and are defending themselves. *shrug* The needle on my f*cks to give meter remains at rest.

Anyway the fb post was about a book on amazon listed as interracial erotica.  Now it isn’t actually erotica.  It is pure smut.  Black chick and her strong white man.  But they don’t call the black woman a chick, they use the word Ho or Hoe.  I forget.  Anyway they were all outraged and one wondered who sanctioned this “filth”.

I had to go to bed early, I was asleep before 9 pm, because it was taking everything in me to not type the following:

The people sanctioning what you term as filth are in fact every single person who is in love with the tv show KDDC or as it is formally known _________.  What y’all don’t get while y’all are screaming “Do it Kizzy!” at the tv is that the show feeds into the fetish that a lot of caucasian men (heck and I imagine some caucasian women too) have about black women.  They would love to be able to screw that smart, articulate, accomplished, attractive, composed black woman in their place of employment, gym or wherever absolutely filthy.  Most black women don’t get that there are eyes set in caucasian faces crawling all over them every day that wish they could treat them like a black ho/hoe.  They don’t want to date black women, just use their bodies for sexual gratification.  Oh and they would like it very much if you, black ho/hoe, would love the degrading way they treat you in the bedroom.  Please and thanks.

There is no love between Kizzy and either of the caucasian men that the writers keep passing her back and forth between like a cheap bottle of muscatel.  When this show is off the air and a few years have passed, SOME people will see the show clearly.  Some will still romanticize it.  Kinda like how I feel about Gem and the Holograms. *chuckling*

I realized that black women really didn’t realize why the show was on the air when I saw someone circulating a petition to have them end the affair with Kizzy’s married massa.  I laughed and shook my head knowing that would never happen.  The day it does, the show will be canceled, not finaled, but canceled five episodes later.

That would mean she would be left with the caucasian who is single, I think.  I don’t watch the show.  I just notice from my fb newsfeed who she’s with by who everyone is panting about that week.  She even had a black beaux for a minute, I guess.  One of her caucasian massas either killed him or had him killed.  Don’t know.  Don’t care.  However, left with an unattached caucasian male would mean that they would be dating.  He would treat her like a woman who is his equal instead of the black ho/hoe that he is using for sex while basking in her love as he treats her like a ho/hoe.

Pay attention: THAT AIN’T GOING TO HAPPEN ON THIS SHOW!

That’s not what the show is about for the caucasians who watch it and write it and that is all that matters.  It has even been leaked that when Miz Shonda ends the show, things will end badly for Kizzy.  As it is supposed to.  A jump off isn’t supposed to have a happily ever after.  Look at Alicia Keys.  She got Whiz but she also got to help him pay his child support payments to the baby mommas before, during, and probably after they got married.  She’s a laughing stock as she should be because she was a jump off to a married man.

Kizzy should have just as bad an end. *shrug* And the leaks seem to say Miz Shonda and the caucasians funding the show agree.

Back to my point, every time a black woman/girl extolls this show, in the fetishizing caucasians’ minds that means that there are black women/girls open to being treated like Kizzy right here and now in 2015.  And that boys and girls is why there is this fetish erotica that y’all are calling filth.  This is what called it into being.

Heck, the books that they were discussing on fb have commenters remarking that they made mistakes in the book.  Black women don’t have pink nipples and they kept mixing up blonde and black hair in the same book! LOL In other words, someone took out their manuscript written about caucasians and just redid the female character and made her black.  Then they didn’t do a very good job of editing it on top of it.  LOL

And though they hate it, those books are in the top fifty thousand on amazon.  Why is that notable?  Because amazon has over seven million books on their site.  Some of those books are well known best sellers by authors the masses know and love.  Books that have been made into plays and movies.  And these smutty fetish books are in the top fifty thousand with them.  Not top million or even hundred thousand but fifty.  Yeah.  There is evidently a lot of money to be made in these kinds of smutty books.  And they get sanctioned every time black women sit down and enjoy, tweet, fb, blog, etc about how much they love KDDC.

*sighs*  Okay.  It is out now and I can go back to chill mode.

A fabulous new year to you!  *fingerwaves*