Again! *chuckles*
My Christmas was interesting. I am working on that post but it’s complicated and I’m trying to make it less so. *shrug* I’m trying.
In the meantime, I wanted to speak about my new lurking spot. Just a little bit.
Like I said in another post, I stopped going to my old spot becuz it would be too weird with My Obsession there. I’d kind a feel like I was stalking him or something.
Oh snap! But I did set up another blog for him to check out. You see, I am kind of a closet writer of sorts. I’m no Stephen King, Mary Monroe, or Sidney Sheldon or anything. It’s just something I do for kicks and relaxation. Anyhoodles, My Obsession told me this dream that kind of inspired a short story that is turning into a novella. *smh chuckling* I thought I would be finished by now but I am not. So I posted what I had completed there and sent him a link. He is supposed to be moving sometime this month to a place with limited internet access. I figured he could check my progress whenever (or if ever) he got the time or inclination. I haven’t heard back from him so he may already be gone. I hope he likes it. If not, oh well I tried.
Anyway, this new spot is just perfect for me. If you make a comment they don’t like no one tells you to die, drink bleach and die, or suck a dyck. *snort chuckle* Truly, the old spot could be fun but one or two of them could be kind of scary if they didn’t like your opinion. I know one day someone made a comment about there being a clique there and a member of the clique came out to say that’s not true. As I sat there reading what got me was not the fact that no one else chimed in to say they agreed there is a clique on that site. What got me was that fact that NO ONE chimed in to agree with the clique member that there is no clique on the site. *chuckle*
There are cliques on most of the popular sites. And that’s fine. It’s the clique that makes it interesting and that will make you want to sit awhile and get to know the site. There’s nothing wrong with a clique as long as the clique plays fair and nice.
I didn’t invite my clique here…well…becuz…at some point I am gonna blog about all of them. LOL
What drew me into this new spot was the thread about how we women lie to men and this was the thread to tell him what you always wanted to tell him. I was in tears reading the responses. TEARS!!!! A gay man chimed in and iDied and was resuscitated. So that made me look around and try to get a feel for the place.
It’s one of those members’ spots. You don’t have to be a member to lurk only to post. But once you become a member you can actually start your own thread. One thread in particular had me ready to sign up cuz though they did get to arguing no one was told to die, drink bleach, etc. But I didn’t have to becuz everyone ended up saying everything I wanted to say.
Anyway the thread author wanted to know what to do about her man. Long story short she didn’t like the advice she was given. The thread was a few weeks old. So the author had come back a few times with updates and disparaging remarks about the advice she didn’t like.
Hoe-kay! Why did a clique member come back with a link to a past thread where the author questioned what to do about the fact that her man’s sex skillz had suddenly fallen off? Then the clique member asked her was this the same dude. It took her 24 hours to respond that yes it was. The told her dump two months ago. They told her to dump him in December. She does not like that advice and the argument that ensued was priceless.
I.
Am.
A.
Fan.
And.
I.
Am.
Hooked.
That is all. *laughing all loud and rude*
I needed that laugh. Cuz, while tooling around the net looking for a new place to lurk I found another blog by a guy who was once on the down low. In case you don’t know, a man (or woman for that matter) on the down low is a person who is presenting themselves to the world as heterosexual and secretly having homosexual affairs. He is a black man from the same area as me and reading his blog just made me so sad.
I read his most recent post first and he is no longer on the down low but he discusses his lovers who are on the down low. However, when he started the blog he was married with kids. It was just amazing how he found time to meet with men. One day he had three sexual encounters with men. The last encounter was a threesome! All while carrying on a marriage and family and job.
*smh very sadly*
I am reading from the beginning forward. These men just play Russian roulette with their women and children’s lives. They don’t seem to care. After reading just a few of his posts I just got really sad. I got the feeling that black people would all be dead from AIDS by the end of this century. I hope that will change as I continue reading his blog.
So many of my friends don’t know their status. They don’t ask their men to get tested for STDs. They tell me that they trust that God won’t send them an HIV+ man. Yeah, ok. But He also gives you common sense and knowledge on how to protect yourself. Use it! They ain’t hearing me.
I guess because I have had the chance to look into the faces of AIDS it has affected me. It is no way to die. And all you have to do is love yourself enough to get tested, test the people you are having sex with, and practice the safest sex possible.
AND DAMN IT BE HONEST ABOUT YOUR SEXUAL ORIENTATION!
It’s not fair for you to lie about that. Men who live on the down low live very dangerous lives. That’s your choice but it’s not the choice of your wives, girlfriends and children.
The black men who do it say that they lie because society won’t let them be gay.
I ain’t buying it. I have never known anyone to be able to stop a black man from doing any damn thing he wanted to do. Except of course a black man.
My humble opinion? I think they hate themselves. Only self hate could make you risk your own life and the lives of the people who love you.
Just my humble opinion.
*tips water bottle at monitor*
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