So, last night after I posted yesterday’s blog I got on fb to see what everyone was up to, play a few games, and check some music posts. I go to my woman’s group and look what one of the ladies posted. *chuckle* Yup, posted by one of the ladies I thought was a bit miffed with me. Oh well. Can’t agree all the time.
I’m glad I saw it after I dumped my argument here. Last night I looked at it, chuckled good-naturedly and thought, ditto, hon, ditto. Your argument still makes zero sense. The only thing I cannot and will not willing accept from a bi-sexual man is his penis and because of that I’m intolerant and prejudiced in your mind. *smh* Nope. I don’t believe it and I’m not taking the bait ever again…in my woman’s group. *chuckle*
Intolerance is when you don’t want someone as your neighbor, coworker, boss, grocery clerk, President, doctor, lawyer, Indian Chief *chuckle*, etc. because of something about them that they were born with and cannot change.
My sexual orientation is one of those things I was born with and cannot change according to those whose orientation is homosexual. My sexual orientation is heterosexual. I prefer a heterosexual mate. It is imperative to my sanity and continued good health.
The funny part is that there were a couple women who chimed in that they were open to being with a man whose sexual orientation is bi-sexual. So there are women out there that they can be honest with and they’ll still want to be with them. They just don’t feel that they should give a woman a chance to reject them. They just need to man up and accept that not every woman, even the woman they think is perfect for them, is going to want to be in a sexual relationship with them. Just like every man whose sexual orientation is heterosexual has to accept it.
Good grief. I’m fat and there are lots of men who are not interested in being in a relationship with me. That is their preference and they have a right to it. And *gasp* I accept that. I'd rather be in a relationship with someone who accepts me as I am than try to hide some parts of me that they may not like. Then flipping it around to make it the other person's fault that you're lying to them. People really?
*smh in wonder* It is just so weird how things have flip flopped. Once upon a time people tried to change people whose sexual orientation was anything but heterosexual. Well, in some places they are still trying. Still people have yelled, screamed, protested, passed laws to protect people whose sexual orientation is not heterosexual and now they have the right to be with who they want. Now, I got someone telling me that I don’t have the right to be with who I want because that is not acceptance? *head scratch* Yeah. Her argument makes zero sense.
Then as I thought about it I realized that people this invested in an argument usually have something or someone they are thinking of when they argue so vehemently. I don’t know who the bi-sexual is in her life but I wish them both wellness and honesty in their sexual relationships.
There are stories I could tell about this mess happening on the down low. I know TPL has a friend I use to call Baby Hairs. I called this guy Baby Hairs because he is a flaming queen who always had his baby hairs slicked down around his face. *chuckling* Seriously, I couldn’t make that up in my wildest dreams. The first time I met him I could barely get myself together to say hello. A grown man coming up on 30 years of age with baby hairs greased and slicked down around his face like a little girl was something I had never seen before or since.
So I’d get updates from TPL as well as from Baby Hairs himself on the few occasions we all went out together. So one day over lunch TPL says Baby Hairs is back to dating women. I burst out laughing thinking it was all a big joke. Yeah. Right. I say. He kept assuring me that it was true.
I was like to each their own then because I thought that was taking fag hagdom to a new level. TPL said they don’t know he is gay. He has changed himself up to look like a thug. I couldn’t even begin to imagine it. I laughed all through his explanations. To be noted here, at this time Baby Hairs had been diagnosed as HIV+.
TPL figured he could show me better than he could tell me because I knew him to be TPL at that point. Why did he show up with this now 30 something man looking and sounding like a regular 30 something straight man? All signs of the queen of baby hairs gone!
So now I had questions! Most importantly, does/do the woman/women he’s having sex with know he’s HIV+. TPL said he didn’t know and from his manner he didn’t care. Normally, I go in for telling the long story but I’d like to forget this mess one day so I won’t immortalize his whole story. Just know that he was at one point trying to get a woman pregnant while infected with HIV. He goes back and forth when he’s feeling the need to know he can still pull women. Sometime around the time TPL’s daughter started dating this no longer became funny to him and for a time they stopped speaking until Baby Hairs went back to dating men exclusively. Baby Hairs’ family knew about his back and forth ways but never said a word to the women who he dated.
To be noted, I don’t care who Baby Hairs was dating, he should have been being honest about his HIV+ status with everyone. TPL never seemed to want to answer my questions about who knew his status and who didn’t. From the things that slipped down through the years the men knew and whether the women knew or not was never answered.
Though one time he almost got as good as he was giving. One day he called up the woman he was trying impregnate to let her know he was on his way over to her place. She told him fine but that they couldn’t have sex as she was having an outbreak. He asked what she was talking about. She then reminded him that she had herpes. She had told him when they were just friends and then he forgot by the time they got around to being sex partners. So he dumped her and went back to men because the last thing he needed was herpes and HIV.
So, she told him what she had but he didn’t feel the need to disclose what he had. Uh huh. Then it all came out in a messy court case. *eye rolls*
Child, I got so much of Baby Hairs drama from TPL through the years that I had to give him a new nickname that I shall not repeat here. *chuckle*
At any rate, I think I’ll be scarce for a bit to give the ladies a chance to cool off.
They are almost all younger than me and we’ve had different experiences. I understand that they’ve had a lot more positive ones than negative. I think I’ve had a lot more negative than positive. So I look at things a lot differently because I’ve seen the underbelly (love that word) of a lot of relationships, heterosexual and homosexual. It ain’t all roses and butterfly kisses.
Oh well. I still got three other places to hang out on the net and *sighs* I got plenty of stuff to do around the house.
*looks at some projects that need finishing*
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