Showing posts with label Baller Alert. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Baller Alert. Show all posts

Monday, July 15, 2013

On the death of Trayvon Martin

I’m going to say this and leave it here and move on with my life.  Right now I am on a media blackout.  Everyone is sitting around on fb, twitter, etc lamenting the fact that George Zimmerman got away with murder.  They are right to a point and we let him.  Let me explain how I see it.

The travesty that is the Trayvon Martin case is that black men did not do what they were supposed to do.  Specifically, the black men of my generation.  When the baton was passed to them to continue the struggle they dropped it.  You see, instead of getting married, building strong families, and continuing to build on the political power base that was started in the 60s and 70s, they decided to sow their wild oats.  Some of them are still sowing them well into their 40s, 50s, and so on.  All while blaming black women for the failure of the black family.

I’m not going to get into a finger pointing match of who was supposed to do what.  Black folks have been doing that for a couple decades now and nothing is changing for the better.

One of the men on BA posted an article about the genocide that is going on in Chicago. *shrug* We have the same genocide going on in Baltimore, and other metropolitan cities where economically and socially challenged blacks live. When you have babies instead of building families genocide from within is the result.  And they want us to feel sorry for them. I can’t.  I lived in those same neighborhoods and I fought and clawed my way out.  It is easy to sit back and do nothing.  It is harder to get up and do something besides talk about change.

They, black men, say they want media coverage of what is going on in the black community. Gee whiz, when Tyler Perry does a play about the things that are going on in the black community it is all lies, etc, etc.  His plays put a lot of blame for our problems at black men’s feet.  He doesn’t let black women off scot free either. But see, when you want to be the leader then you actually have to LEAD and not be led.  They want caucasians to lead them to their place as “kings”. *eye rolls* Where in the history of this world is it written that any king was handed his power and kingdom by another mortal king?  Seriously, where? More importantly, why would caucasians do such a thing?  In their eyes it profits them to keep the status quo just as it is.  It doesn’t but that is a post for another day.

What I have learned from studying caucasian history is that the reason they win is because they are tenacious!  They do not stop until their objective is obtained.  Then they find a new objective and keep pushing. Success is not a destination. It is a journey. It is a journey they are in for the long haul.

Hispanics in this country follow in that same vein.  They build families. They build communities. They have built their political power base. I offer the following example: in my great state of Maryland illegal aliens can now get a driver’s license and free healthcare. *blink blink* They pay not one income tax anywhere but they can drive the same roads that US citizens, born and naturalized, pay taxes for the upkeep on. And they can do so legally. They can get free health care and have not paid one dime into social security.  That is what having a community to back you does. You build a community by building families. Parents care about their children and the community they grow up in. They vote. They call their congressmen and senators when there is a community concern.  Baby daddies and baby mommas just sit around talking about how bad things are and when are white folks gonna fix it.

I’m not gonna lament.  I’m going to work for the change I want to see. I’m going to funnel all my emotional energy into what I’m doing for change. I don’t expect the world to change overnight. Only a fool would expect that. Sweety, Columbus sailed the ocean blue sometime around 1492. It took over five hundred years to see a black president of these here united states but we got one. Perseverance, tenacity, hope, imagination, and so much more. And of course, not to forget God. Me and Him got a relationship that is quite different from most. It doesn’t require me judging another soul. Just my own progress in life.

Instead of the folks in Florida lamenting and being angry I offer this, there were at least fifty-eleven (yes that’s a term these days) things that George Zimmerman did wrong that they could be lobbying to make illegal now. Starting from when the 911 operator told him not to engage the young man and that the police were on their way. If you’re angry, sad, mad, depressed, etc then get off your butt and start lobbying for change. Start lobbying for a new law. Contribute that dollar you were saving till the end of the month to Trayvon Martin’s parents’ defense fund for a civil suit. Every action counts.

If you don’t like the war young black men are waging on each other in your city then I suggest you stop complaining about it and be about it. Be a mentor or be a victim. Because I assure you, Shaquan and ‘nem are coming for you one day if you don’t. Get back to teaching young black men to be men and leaders instead of baby daddies. Forget the finger pointing of who did what to who when. It doesn’t help. Each day new children are born and they need guidance to be better than the streets where they were born.

If you don’t like what is going on in your world then shut up, get up, and do something about it. I ain’t saying you got to change the whole world with your one idea, dollar, action, phone call, letter, etc. But if each person did what they were able to do to work towards a positive change think of what we could accomplish. I think of it this way: the United States of America started with a couple ships and look at her now.

*shrugs* Be the change or be the problem. I’m working on my way of being the change. No tears here. No cussing or fussing either. That is wasted energy that takes away from my work on the solution.

As for George Zimmerman?  He will spend the rest of his life looking over his shoulder. Thanks to the news media, we know what he looks like fat and skinny. I predict one day we’ll hear that he is dead. Whether by his own hand or someone else’s I can neither say nor really care. He sealed his fate when he shot down another human being for no discernible reason.  I leave him in the hands of the God I serve. He’s merciful but He is vengeful, too.

My condolences go to Trayvon Martin’s family. May they find a way to heal despite this travesty.  I hope they seek a civil trial. I hope we all stand behind them and send them a million dollars or more for the legal dream team they need to win.

I hope that black folks wake up, stop blaming, and get moving.

*heads off to lunch*

Sunday, May 13, 2012

So long, farewell, something something, and goodbye to Facebook


Soooooooooooooooooooooooooo…I’m gone from Facebook…again. This time for good. I do not play he said she said and I am too old for electronic battles.  I got real life battles to deal with.

So I am on FB Saturday afternoon trying to play catch up when I head over to my ladies group and evidently TDP and HKS are having some type of fb argument.  I can’t see anything TDP writes because he blocked me ages ago. *shrug* Turns out it is a blessing, God is awesome! Since I can’t see it then I can’t be pulled into it.

However, one of my fb buddies tried to pull me into it. I was like, wait…what?  Why are you calling me out and you know all the dirt? Is what I was thinking. *chuckle* I basically gave a “no comment” comment and exited the group. Not that I didn’t want to say something, because game recognizes game, but I knew it wasn’t my place.

Anyway what struck me as always was how quick the women in the group were to jump on HKS. Long story short he’s moving him and his son to VA to live with her. As in now. Um, school ends in about a month. Why is he yanking his kid out of school this close to the end of the school year?  That was my thought. Not why isn’t HKS responding to him about the move. That’s his son, not hers.

Everyone kept saying, but there is a child involved. I’m thinking, yeah, his child. Because if the situation were reversed then everyone would be looking at her like she was crazy for yanking her kid out of school before the school year ended and moving to another state to depend on some man.

I know this because we already had a similar scenario on BA. *chuckle*

Anyway, it threw me into another round of self examination. Because my response and thoughts were so totally different from everyone else’s. I mean, I do not think of myself as a bitch. But considering the way all the other women were just jumping on HKS, I was wondering had I turned into a bitch without realizing it.

I guess what I am trying to figure out now at the age of 44 years is how much compassion do you show a person?  All the other ladies were just so concerned about the child and his father. Me on the other hand:

Give zero fucks

Seriously. I couldn’t care less about his situation. Maybe I know too much of their back story.  Maybe it is the fact that I didn’t attend his birthday party but sent a gift, and notified him ahead of time that I couldn’t attend due to illness and apologized AND he was still pissy months later.  That told me a lot about his character right there. I just shook my head when he called himself subliminally cussing me out about it on twitter. *shrug* He’s damn near 40 years old and mad because someone didn’t attend his birthday party. Seriously? Yeah. Ok.

Seriously, if you send me a gift on my birthday instead of coming to see me because you are sick, I ain’t going to be mad with you depending on the gift. *chuckle*

But back to me being a bitch.  Am I just a cold unfeeling bitch? I guess that will be one of the things for me to work on and think about. I never thought I was. I thought I was compassionate and caring but the whole time they were talking about HKS, I just kept thinking “That’s his kid, not hers. She owes him and that kid zilch.”

How much compassion do you show to him and his child in this situation? He’s not moving to Virginia to BE with her, he’s moving him and his child IN with her. And I am being left with the impression he doesn’t have a job and is still married to his wife. Oh the wife is staying here in public housing.



He ain’t married to me then he can’t live with me and I don’t do men with young children. AND I DAMN FOR SURE DON’T DO MEN WHO ARE MARRIED TO ANYONE OTHER THAN ME!

And what the rest of them don’t know is that those two sometimes make each other mad in order to enhance their sex lives. When HKS and I were friends she would be pissed with him and they’d do and say things to each other to make each other madder. Then they’d get together for a sex session and work all that aggression out.  Then they would be cool again. It works for them.

So while I’m contemplating my bitch status those two may be somewhere burning a hole in a floor. Maybe.  One thing I am 90% sure of is that this ain’t over by a long shot and I am excusing myself from the drama. I am going to miss the shenanigans. Oh well. To everything a season under Heaven.  I guess my season with FB is over.


Wednesday, April 25, 2012

Baller Alert showcased on Anderson Cooper TV Show

*giggling like mad* So one of my favorite e-hang outs BA was showcased on the Anderson Cooper TV Show and it has begun. The deluge of newbies descending on the site to ask the same type of newbie questions. This happened after BA was mentioned on Fox News, a radio show, and some magazine and e-articles.

It is always the same. The old heads go into hiding because they don't want to be recognized and their game let out to their sponsors. Then you got the semi-new chicks trying to advise the newbies. *giggling*

All that came to a head last week when one of the true old heads came out of lurk mode to ask WTF kind of advice were some of these chicks giving people. lol Even I was kinda side eyeing the advice being given like, y'all need to sit down and be quiet and let one of the real ballerettes speak on some of this. *cackling*

Oh my gosh. It is a little disconcerting when you think about it. There are about 20-30 people who chat all the time. You really do forget that you are not alone and that there are a lot of eyes out there checking your every word.

I signed up with a site a couple years ago that I have never used. This site actually let you see how many people were online at any given time. So one day while there were 7 people actively commenting, there were over 1100 people online at the time. I was like, what are the rest of you doing? *chuckle*

I know that is called lurking. I do it over on Black n Bougie all the time. It was just kind of off-putting to realize how many people are reading your words.

It is just funny as all get out. One BA member who has been there since the first thread said she'd see us in June when the hoopla died down. lol And we ain't seen her since. lol

Some of these women really do report that they have sugardaddy / sugarbaby relationships that they don't want to jeopardize. If they truly have it the way they say then I can't blame them.

It is just funny in a crazy way.